LESSON THIRTY NINE (39)
TOPIC: 3RD INTERACTIVE SESSION & QUARTERLY REVIEW
SUMMARY OF LESSONS 27 -38
LESSON TWENTY-SEVEN (27)
TOPIC: BRIDGING PARENT-CHILD GAP
BIBLE PASSAGE: Psalms 127:1-5.
MEMORY VERSE: “For I know him, that he will command his children and his household after him, and they shall keep the way of the LORD, to do justice and judgment; that the LORD may bring upon Abraham that which he hath spoken of him”. Genesis 18:19.
LESSON INTRODUCTION: Parenting refers to the aspect of raising a child from infancy to adulthood. The most common partaker is the biological parent of the child. Parenting in the 21St century involves parent-child relationship. The parent-child relationship must be based on love, truth, openness, honour, obedience, discipline and provision. Parenting can be difficult and challenging, but at the same time the most rewarding and fulfilling things we ever do. The Bible has a great deal to say about the way we can successfully raise our children to be great men and women of God. It is easier to train a child than to repair an adult.
LESSON OUTLINES:
LESSON OUTLINE 1: PARENTING: OLD AND
MODERN
A. PARENTING AS OF OLD:
i. Teacher should group the class into two (2) groups.
ii. Group one should mention those things their children indicate that some parents are negligent in upbringing their children.
iii. Group two should mention those things that which indicate that some parents have performed their duties well in upbringing of their children.
iv. Teacher should explain the role played by the parents of Jesus (Mary and Joseph) to
protect baby Jesus according to Matthew
2:13-15.
v. Teacher should explain the role played by
Mary and Joseph to ensure that baby Jesus
grew in the knowledge of God according to
Luke 2:22-24, 41-42.
vi. Teacher should allow the students to identify the role played by Eli in the upbringing his sons, Hophni and Phinehas according to 1 Samuel 4:13-21.
B. MODERN PARENTING:
i. Teacher should allow students to identify
dominant factors which influence parenting whether positively or negatively in our modern society.
ii. Teacher should carefully identify those practices and developments which have influenced parenting in our modern society as indicated below:
*a. Indulgence*: e. g “My child should not suf-
fer as I did”.
*b. Negligence of duty*: for instance, some parents abdicate their responsibilities for
house maid, teachers and electronic gadgets.
*c. Wrong Priority*: for instances some parents place their careers above their children care.
d. Adverse effects of communication technologies expose the child to unwholesome practices.
CLASS ACTIVITY 1: Students should differentiate between the old and modern parenting pointing out the dangers in the gap.
LESSON OUTLINE 2: DIVINE EXPECTATION
Teacher should use the lecture teaching method to deliver the Outline 2 (to save time).
To bridge the gap between the biblical pattern and the modern pattern of parenting, the
following biblical principles could applied:
I.*Apply the rod of correction (Prov.22:15)*. This is not the rod of abuse, but correction. An abused child will suffer great trauma, but a child who is properly corrected will enjoy peace.
II.*Discipline promptly (Prov.13:24)*. Discipline has to do with understanding that various ways of correcting wrong doing with the goal of inculcating the confidence to do right always. A parent does not love his child if he fails to apply the rod when necessary (Prov.23:13-14; 29:15-17).
III. *Begin training early (Prov.19:18)*. Many lives have been ruined due to the negligence of some parents by excusing or over looking the wrong doings of their children instead of correcting them early.
IV. *Be a role model. (2 Tim.1:5).*
IV. *Teach them the word of God. (Deut.6:6-7)*.
CLASS ACTIVITY 2: What does God expects
parent to do to bridge gap?
SUMMARY: Children are heritage of the Lord and should be raised up according to God’s pattern.
CONCLUSION: God is keenly interested in you and your parenting responsibilities. You should partner with God by studying His word and following His leading for success.
*LESSON TWENTY-EIGHT (28)*
*TOPIC: WIDOWHOOD AND SINGLE-PARENTHOOD*
*BIBLE PASSAGE: GENESIS 21:8-19*
MEMORY VERSE: “Father of the fatherless, and a judge of the widows, is God in his holy habitation.” Psalm 68:5
INTRODUCTION: A single parent is a parent without a marriage partner widowed or separated deserted divorced or never married one who is alone in charge of his or her household with the wood is the state of a man whose wife is dead or of a woman whose husband is dead God loves and cares very deeply for the widowed and single parents therefore commands us to protect and care for these people in our churches and communities Psalm 82:3
LESSON OUTLINES:
1. CAUSES AND GOD’S DISPOSITION
i. Teacher should ask students to differentiate between a widow/widower and a single parent in term of causes.
ii. Teacher should differentiate as follow in term of causes:
a. widow/ widower: lost spouses to death.
b. Single parent man/woman (caused by) divorce, separation, abandonment, adoption, rape, unwanted pregnancy
iii. Teacher should allow student to find similarities between single parent and widow/widower.
iv. Teacher should explain those premium which God places on widow/widower and single parent as indicated below:
a. God is protector of Widow and father to the fatherless (Psalm 68:5).
b. God forbids people from afflicting widow/widower and single parent. (Exodus 22:23).
c. God hears their cries and care for them and their children. (Gen. 21:15:19).
v. God does not want people to maltreat, afflict, abuse or take advantage of widows. (Exodus 22:22).
vi. God wants his children to visit and support the widows and fatherless. James 1:27
vii. God wants believers to defend them (Isaiah 1:17).
viii. The Almighty God values the widows and the fatherless in the following lights:
a. He sustains and relieves them. (Psalms 146:9).
b. God makes provision for them in his law (Deuteronomy 10:18; 26:12-13).
c. He preserves them. (Jeremiah 49:11).
CLASS ACTIVITY 1: Students should be allowed to share what they had done to assist the widows or fatherless or motherless.
LESSON OUTLINES 2: OUR RESPONSIBILITY
i. Believers should love and care for them. (James 1:27).
ii. Believers should provide support system for them. (Acts 20:35).
iii.Encourage them in words and deeds. (1 Thess. 5:14).
iv.Train them and or their children.
v. Support them as mordecai supported the orphan haddassah (Esther) and cared for her until she was great. (Esther 2:7).
vi. They must be represented and honoured. (1Tim. 5:3)
vii. The church must support them. (Galatians 6:10).
CLASS ACTIVITY 2: What Should believers do to help the widows/widowers and single parents?
SUMMARY: Support the widows/widowers, single parents and their children.
CONCLUSION: God’s intention for the church is that it becomes a family of faith, a real community where lives are shared, friendship are formed and support is given as we journey in faith together.
*LESSON TWENTY-NINE (29)*
*TOPIC: CHRISTIAN COUPLE AND IN-LAWS*
*BIBLE PASSAGE: Ruth 1:1-18*
MEMORY VERSE: “And Boaz answered and said unto her, It hath fully been shewed me, all that thou hast done unto thy mother in law since the death of thine husband: and how thou hast left thy father and thy mother, and the land of thy nativity, and art come unto a people which thou knewest not heretofore”. Ruth 2:11
INTRODUCTION: Christian couples are expected to live according to the dictates of God’s word. For instance, the Bible tells us that a man should leave his parents and cleave to his wife (Genesis 2:24). This shows that a line must be drawn between the families from which both partners originated from and the new family the couple is building. However, the Bible admonishes us to honour our parents (Exodus 20:12; Deuteronomy 5:16) and do good to all men especially the members of our household (Galatians 6:10). It should be noted that in-laws are people related to us by marriage and we should deal with them with godly wisdom (James 3:17).
LESSON OUTLINES 1: BUILD A CORDIAL RELATIONSHIP
Question: What should Christian couples do to build a cordial relationship with their in-laws?
Answer: Teacher should give and explain the five points stated below as answers:
a. Avoid preconceptions: Do not have a biased perspective of your in-laws. Be open and free in your dealings with them (Romans 12:10,16; 1Peter 3:8).
b. Avoid acting like strangers: Do well to let your in-laws see you as another child of theirs and not a stranger (Proverbs 18:24; John 15:15).
c. Avoid damaging rules: Make sure you avoid rules that can destroy the relationship with your in-laws (1Timothy 5:1-2). Be wise and all decisions relating to your in-laws, especially in speech (Psalms 34:13; Colossians 4:6).
d. Treat in-laws as important people and avoid strife (Philippians 2:3). Exhibit maturity and patience with in-laws (2Corinthians 6:4).
e. Remain humble and encourage mutual submission (1Peter 5:5; Ephesians 5:21). Always seek peace and pursue it (Psalm 34:14 Romans 12:18).
Question: Teacher should now ask students to explain why the Christian couples should behave in the five ways stated above.
i. For instance, point number 5 says “be humble” why?
Answer: if either couples, say wife for instance, is proud and show arrogance to the husband’s parent; it could provoke separation or disaffection to the wife
ii. Teacher and student should discuss the remaining four points.
CLASS ACTIVITY 1: Why do you think some couples do not build cordial relationship with their in-laws?
LESSON OUTLINES 2: THE THIN LINE
A. In-laws too should show cordial relationship to their son-in-law and daughter-in-law using the following guidelines.
i. They should avoid external interference in the affairs of the couple and allow them build godly home. (Colossians 3:21; Matthew 19:4-6).
ii. They could give the couple counsel and support them with prayers without necessarily imposing their views. (Ephesians 6:4; Proverbs 11:14; Proverbs 19:20-21).
iii. They should allow the married couple takes their own decisions as responsible adults.
B. Teachers should ask students to explain why the in-laws should be guided with the above-stated points.
i. For instance, point number ‘3’ which states that couples should be allowed to take their own decision. This is essential because it will enable them think deep before taking decisions knowing fully well that they would be held accountable for their mistakes.
ii. Teachers and students should discuss the remaining two points.
CLASS ACTIVITY 2: Why do you think some parents like to impose their views on their sons and daughters in-law?
SUMMARY: Both the couples and in-laws have crucial roles to play in maintaining cordial relationship.
CONCLUSION: Christian couples must relate with their in-laws in love and as light/salt of the world (Matthew 5:13-14). Live at peace and remain humble at all times (Hebrews 12:14)
*LESSON THIRTY (30)*
*TOPIC: ADULTERY AND FORNICATION*
*BIBLE PASSAGE: 1 Corinthians 6:15-20*
MEMORY VERSE: “If any man defile the temple of God, him shall God destroy; for the temple of God is holy, which temple ye are”. 1 Corinthians 3:17
INTRODUCTION: Sexual immorality is any habit or act that contradicts God’s laid down plan, principle and practice concerning sexual behaviour. Adultery and fornication are forms of sexual immorality. Other forms of sexual immorality are homosexuality, lesbianism, bestialism, incest, rape, masturbation, pornography, lustful desires and immoral thoughts. Adultery and fornication and not just sins against God (1Corinthians 6:19-20) but also against one’s soul(1Peter 2:11) and body (1Corinthians 6:18). In this lesson, we shall attempt to understand the meaning and causes of adultery and fornication, consider their inherent dangers as well as the antidotes or remedies.
LESSON OUTLINES:
1. DESCRIPTION AND CAUSES
2. DANGERS AND ANTIDOTES
LESSON OUTLINE 1: DESCRIPTIONS AND CAUSES
A. DESCRIPTION:
Question 1: What do you understand by the term adultery?
Answers:
i. It is any illicit sexual relationship between a married person and other person(s) apart from spouse.
ii. It is illicit sexual relationship between a married person and someone that is engaged or betrothed.
iii. It is marital infidelity.
iv. It is the works of the flesh (Galatians 5:19).
v. It is one of the ten commandments which God gave to the Israelite (Exodus 20:14).
vi. It is a sin punishable by death. (Leviticus 20:10; John 8:4-5).
vii. It emanates from the thought of the heart (Matthew 5:27-28)
viii. It is a lust of the eyes (2Peter 2:14).
Question 2: What is Fornication? What about it?
Answers:
i. It is a sexual immorality or intercourse between unmarried couples.
ii. Temptation to commit fornication is very popular in the mordern society especially amount the youth. (1Corinthains 5:1).
iii. Believers must avoid falling into the temptation of fornication. (1Corinthains 10:12-13).
Question 3: What are the likely causes of adultery and fornication
Answers:
i. Untamed lustful desires (James 1:13-14).
ii. Covetousness (Exodus 20:17).
iii. Lack of contentment with one’s spouse. (1Corinthians 7:2-5).
iv. Separation, divorce and remarriage. (Matthew 19:9; Romans 7:2-3).
v. Undefined relationship (1Corinthians 7:2).
vi. Prolonged courtship (1Corinthians 7:9).
CLASS ACTIVITY 1: Teacher should ask students to describe fornication and adultery and their causes.
LESSON OUTLINES 2: DANGERS AND ANTIDOTES
Question 1: What are the dangers of adultery and fornication?
Answers:
i. Loss of dignity and honour. (Proverbs 6:32-33).
ii. Divine curses and affliction. (Genesis 49:3-4).
iii. Diseases and unwanted pregnancies and untimely death.
iv. God’s judgement.(Hebrews 13:4).
v. Eternal destruction /separation from God (1Corinthians 6:9-10).
Question 2:
What are the antidotes for Fornication and adultery?
Answers:
i. Be conscious of the fact that both fornication and adultery are sin. (Genesis 39:9; Romans 6:13).
ii. Fear God abstain from sexual sins. (1Thessalonians 5:22; Genesis 39:10-12; 1Corinthians 6:18).
iii. Get married as soon as you are matured. (1Corinthians 7:2; Hebrews 13:4a).
iv. Avoid strange men and women in your marriage and be contended with each other. (1Corinthians 7:3-5; Proverbs 5:18-20).
v. Meditate on the word of God and depend on the Holy Spirit. (Philippians 4:8,13).
CLASS ACTIVITY 2: Identify the dangers and solution to fornication and adultery?
SUMMARY: Flee fornication and adultery and save yourself from their consequences.
CONCLUSION: Sex before or outside marriage is totally forbidden by God (Ephesians 5:3). Saint must abstain from fornication (Acts 15:20, 29). Adultery as well as fornication kills.
*LESSON THIRTY-ONE (31)*
*TOPIC: HOLY “MATRI-MONEY” (PART 1)*
*BIBLE PASSAGE: Deuteronomy 28:1-13*
MEMORY VERSE: “For the love of money is the root of all evil: which while some coveted after, they have erred from the faith, and pierced themselves through with many sorrows.” 1 Timothy 6:10.
INTRODUCTION: Money is the major means of catering for our everyday needs and it is capable of meeting virtually all physical needs. One major reason couples get divorce is financial disagreement. This is very difficult to believe until one begins to feel the pool of financial tension in the home. Usually, the conflict may not appear to be directly about money but a closer look would reveal that the fight is about priorities, values, dreams, and trusts which are all linked with finances. The Bible cautions us about our attitude towards money. 1 Tim.6:10
OUTLINES:
1. OURS VERSUS YOURS AND MINE
2. HONESTY AND TRUST
1. OURS VERSUS YOURS AND MINE
Question 1: Who owns the spouse money (husband or wife)? Teacher should allow students to respond.
Teacher should give and explain the following answers:
i. God own all riches. (Haggai 2:8).
ii. God wants his children to prosper. (3John 2; Ps.1:3).
iii. God gives his children power to get wealth. (Deut.8:18; Isa.45:3).
Question 2: Teacher should ask students this question. “Should husband or wife be the sole owner of money in marriage”?
Answer: No.
Question 3: Why and how?
Answer: The spouse’s money belongs to the spouses (i.e. husband and wife) and the children.
Question 4: Why?
Answers: i. Because the husband and wife now becomes one flesh and nothing including money should separate them. (Matt.19:4-6; Eph.5:29-32; Gen.2:4).
ii. Married people have expanded responsibilities.
iii. Financial policy should therefore change from “mine” to “ours”.
CLASS ACTIVITY 1: Why do you think some men or women take the ownership of money in their families?
2. HONESTY AND TRUST
Teacher should explain the following points:
i. Trust and honesty are essential in family finances. (1Cor.13:7).
ii. There should be absolute truth on the spouse’s income and expenditure. (Col. 3:9).
iii. Whichever choice of account chosen (whether joint or separate) openness and sincerity are essential. (Matt.19:5-6).
CLASS ACTIVITY 2: Why do you think spouse withholds spending information from the partner?
SUMMARY: What God has joined together, money should not put asunder.
CONCLUSION: Money, if rightly handled and managed in marriage, will act as a lubricant to the overall success of the marriage. However, the mishandling or mismanagement of money -which is a principal evil (1Tim.6:10), will wreck the home and could be the root of a broken marriage.
*LESSON THIRTY-TWO (32)*
*TOPIC: HOLY “MATRI-MONEY” (PART 2)*
*BIBLE PASSAGE: Proverbs 31:10-31*
MEMORY VERSE: “Beloved, I wish above all things that thou mayest prosper and be in health, even as thy soul prospereth.” 3 John 2.
INTRODUCTION: Most of us have strong feelings about money. Some people hoard it while others are carelessly generous. Some invest conservatively while others take great risks. The influence of our parents as well as our past experiences with money (before marriage), play a significant role in our behaviour towards money. Often, these factors create strain and tension in marriage. Remember, you are different from your spouse.
LESSON OUTLINES
1.COMMUNICATION IS THE PRICELESS KEY
2. BUDGETING IS GOOD
1. COMMUNICATION IS THE PRICELESS KEY
i. Couple should discuss properly their income and expenditure at all times to avoid wrong feelings and conflicts. (Eph.4:15).
ii. The line of discussion should include regular expenses, new expenses or project, regular income, additional revenue, new business, loans, grants, etc.
iii. Further discussion could include the use of cash, ATM, cheques, transfer, credit/debit cards, POS, etc.
iv. There should not be any bases for hoarding or reckless spending of the limited available resources.
v. Couple should pray over their financial matters in agreement and avoid impromptu purchases outside agreement. (Col.4:2; Eccl.4:9).
CLASS ACTIVITY 1: Discuss why some couples do not discuss their financial resources pointing out the inherent dangers in such omission.
2. BUDGETING IS GOOD
i. Planning spending in the reality of available income/revenue over a period of time, say monthly, quarterly or annually is a very good approach to avoid financial crises in the family.
ii. A good budgeting could lead to effective spending, saving and financial freedom. (Eccl. 10:19; Prov. 16:8; 14:18).
iii. Executing a budget as proposed could engender trust, honesty, good communication, moderation and contentment.
iv. If reduces frequently argument over financial matters in the family.
v. It discourages impulse purchases and promotes prudence and saving (Prov. 16:9).
CLASS ACTIVITY 2: Discuss why many couples fail to budget (financial budget)?
SUMMARY: Good communication and budgeting could lead to financial freedom.
CONCLUSION: The key to financial success in marriage is for the couple to discuss their views on money and decide how they will make decisions about how the family’s money will be managed.
*LESSON THIRTY-THREE (33)*
*TOPIC: RUNNING BUSINESS AS CHRISTIANS*
*BIBLE PASSAGE: Psalms 37:3-9*
MEMORY VERSE: “Nevertheless the foundation of God standeth sure, having this seal, The Lord knoweth them that are his. And, Let every one that nameth the name of Christ depart from iniquity.” 2 Timothy 2:19.
INTRODUCTION: While there are many paths to success, not all of them are ethical or recommended for a Christian business owner because the way you define success is probably different from the way a non-believer defines it. To build a successful business, you must know the biblical principles for business success so that you can use them to achieve your business goals to the glory of God.
LESSON OUTLINES:
1. BIBLICAL BUSINESS PRINCIPLES
2. CAUTIONS FOR CHRISTIAN BUSINESS OWNERS
LESSON OUTLINES 1: BIBLICAL BUSINESS PRINCIPLES
i. Principle No 1: God owns it all. As a business owner, it is easy to think you are the boss and everything you own belongs to you. Knowing God owns it all, you will strive to do everything for His glory and shun business practices and ethics that are not pleasing to God. (Hag.2:8; Ps.50:10; Deut.8:18). See your business as a means to further the gospel and the kingdom of God. Use it as a platform to witness to others.
ii. Principle No 2: Be a Value-Giver: We should create great products and services that we would gladly purchase ourselves. (Ex.28:6; Ex.31:4; Rom.12:11). Being excellent at what we do is a fantastic way to honour God and to love our neighbours. Do unto others as you want them to do to you. Matt.7:12.
iii. Principle No 3: Take action and work hard. Do not just talk about starting a business, or changing your current marketing strategy, take action. (Prov.12:24; Prov.22:29). Also, do not just complain about something when it is not working well. Go and fix it. If you are trying to reach financial independence through starting a business, working hard will help propel you towards that. (Prov. 10:4,14).
iv. Principle No 4: Wisdom. You need wisdom to make the right decisions for your business, so you can avoid making irreversible or costly mistakes. James 1:5. Do not be afraid to pray for wisdom or be too proud to seek God’s direction for your business. (Prov. 4:7; Ps.37:23).
v. Principle No 5: Humility. To relate well with people especially clients or customers, you must remain humble and approachable. (Prov.11:2; James 4:6).
vi. Principle No 6: The right business skills. To grow your business, you have to be skilful. (2 Chron.2:8). Thankfully, it is possible to learn new skills, so there is no reason not to acquire the skills required.
vii. Principle No 7: The right tools and resources. For example, are there tools that can increase your productivity? Do you need a website to reach more people? Do you need to invest in some business technology? These are the types of questions you should ask yourself from time to time if you want to keep growing your business. (Prov.18:15).
viii. Principle No 8: Make money honestly: Do not cheat, lie to, or scam people out of their money. Build up your business little by little. (Prov.13:11). Do not be greedy of gain.
ix. Principle No 9: Be bold and get ready to meet with people of like passion. You need to relate with people in similar business and from other walks of life, various societal status/class, etc. you should be articulate in your presentations and negotiations. (Prov.28:1; Eccl. 8:1; 2 Tim.1:7).
CLASS ACTIVITY 1:
i. Teacher should enumerate the nine (9) principles stated above.
ii. Teacher should open floor for discussion of each point by giving each point to a student or group of students to discuss on why each principle should be adhered to.
iii. Teacher should give one minute each for each student or group to discuss their principles.
LESSON OUTLINE 2: CAUTIONS FOR CHRISTIAN BUSINESS OWNERS
i. Do not allow your business to become idol. (Luke 12:16-21).
ii. Do not serve mammon in the place of God. (Luke 16:13).
iii. Do not neglect your family and friend for your business. (Prov. 18:24).
iv. Do not jeopardize your health because of your business. Avoid plunging into sorrow. (1Tim. 6:10).
v. Do not neglect God for your business. (Prov. 10:22).
vi. Keep God first in your business. (Prov. 10:22).
vii. Avoid selfishness, sinful practice and disorderliness. (1 Cor. 14:40).
CLASS ACTIVITY 2: Teacher should allow students to comments on why cautions should be taken on the above-stated points. ii. Teacher should allow one minute each for each of the comments.
SUMMARY: Put God first in your business.
CONCLUSION: Christians need to take the lead and build the next Amazon, Google, Facebook, and Microsoft.
*LESSON THIRTY FOUR (34)*
*TOPIC: CHRISTIANITY AND GOVERNANCE*
*BIBLE PASSAGE: Romans 13:1-6*
MEMORY VERSE: “And hast made us unto our God kings and priests: and we shall reign on the earth” Revelation 5:10.
INTRODUCTION: The opinion held by some Christians that if they were going to follow Christ, they must be quiet and withdrawn from things happening on the earth, negates the will of God as spelt out in the Scripture. As a matter of fact, Christ has called believers unto a life of influence, control and dominion (Ps.8:6). They are to take charge (Matt. 5:15-16) and the issue of governance is no exception. As the light of the world, they are to dispel the darkness of unrighteousness, sycophancy, etc. which are the order of the day, in present day governance systems of the world.
LESSON OUTLINES:
1. THE VIEW OF GOD ON GOVERNANCE
2. WHY CHRISTIANS SHOULD BE INVOLVED IN GOVERNANCE
LESSON OUTLINE 1.THE VIEW OF GOD ON GOVERNANCE
i. God instituted governance for administration, justice and general well-being of the citizen. (Ps.72:4, 13; 1Tim. 2:2).
ii. The Almighty God is the Governor of all nations. (Ps.22:28).
iii. God delegates power and authority to people and allow them to rule. (Dan. 4:34).
iv. God gave dominion to man over everything he created. (Gen.1:26).
v. Governance is a manifestation of the gift of the Holy Spirit. (1Cor.12:28; Rom. 12:8).
vi. Through governance, there is orderliness and sanity. (Titus 1:5; 1Cor.14:40; Ex.18:21).
vii. Being an institution established by God, it must be respected. (Mark 12:17; Rom. 13:1-2).
viii. Governance is a call to service. (Matt.20:25-28).
ix. Governance is a ministry while those in government should be regarded as ministers of God. (Rom.13:3-4; 1 Cor.12:28).
CLASS ACTIVITY 1: Why do some people in government misrule?
LESSON OUTLINE 2. WHY CHRISTIANS SHOULD BE INVOLVED IN GOVERNANCE
i. It is part of our inherent designs as believers. (Gen.1:26; Matt.5:15-16).
ii. To effect positive and lasting change. (Gen.41:46-57).
iii. It stands out the nation among other nations. (Prov.14:34).
iv. To make righteous laws and decrees that lead to national progress. (Mk.6:27; Lk. 2:1).
v. It is obeying God’s ordinance of submission to authority. (Heb.13:17; 1Pet.2:13-14; Rom. 13:1-2).
vi. It brings blessings and breakthrough on the nation and fulfilment for her citizenry. (Prov.11:10).
vii. Governance is God’s institution and supported by the word of God. So, people of God should not be kept out of God’s institution. (Rom.13:1-6).
viii. To avoid paying the costly price of bad leadership. (2 Sam.23:3; Prov.22:9).
SUMMARY: God instituted governance for the well-being of the people and expects his people to be involved.
CONCLUSION: Believers should take their rightful place in deciding the destiny of their nations and turn the kingdom of this world to the kingdom of our God which is God’s divine mandate for us.
*LESSON THIRTY FIVE (35)*
*TOPIC: THE CHRISTIAN FAMILY*
*BIBLE PASSAGE: Titus 2:1-14$
MEMORY VERSE:
“In all things shewing thyself is a pattern of good works:..” Titus 2:7a.
INTRODUCTION: A Christian family is an institution where parents are bound together by Christian love and where children are happy and spiritually instructed. It is a home where the Lord Jesus is the supreme head. A Christian family is one that radiates Christ, welcomes strangers and dispenses hospitality. A Christian family consists of God-fearing parents and children. The Christian family is the bedrock of the nation and the glory of the Christian church. May God grant us Christian families.
NOTE: Teacher should apply points to the teaching as appropriate.
LESSON OUTLINES:
1: DUTIES OF EACH MEMBER
2: COLLECTIVE RESPONSIBILITY OF THE PARENTS
LESSON OUTLINE 1: DUTIES OF EACH MEMBER
i. What they do as member of the family.
ii. What their fathers and mothers do in the family.
B. Teacher should explain the under listed positions or duties of the members of the family as indicated below:
I. Husband:
i. He is the head of the family (and the wife is the help mate not servant or slave). (Eph. 5:23).
ii. He must love the wife as himself in health, sickness, poverty and prosperity. (Eph. 5:25; Col. 3:19).
iii. He must be faithful to her and comfort her in times of sorrows. (1Sam. 1:8).
iv. He should communicate and discuss/consult with wife on all matters and issues which affect the home because the twin are one. (Mark 10:8).
v. He is the Priest of the family and should lead the family to love, fear and worship God always. (Luke 14:26).
II. Wife:
i. She must support and submit to her husband like Sarah. (Eph.5:22; 1Pet. 3:5-6).
ii. She should respect and love the husband. (Titus 2:4).
iii. She should exhibit good works, show modesty and sobriety, be meek and of quiet spirit. (2Pet.3:4-5).
iv. She should be trustworthy, hardworking, dutiful and responsible. (Prov.31:11,13,15).
III. Children:
i. They must honour their parents. (Ex.20:12).
ii. They must obey their parents. (Luke 2:51).
iii. They must love their parents, be sober and show /good example in all things. (Titus 2:6-7).
LESSON OUTLINE 2: COLLECTIVE RESPONSIBILITY OF THE PARENTS
Students should mention those things which they feel that both the father and the mother should do together to ensure a better upbringing of their children.
Teacher should explain the following points to students:
i. Both should love and care/provide for their children. (1Tim.5:8).
ii. Both should introduce God to their children in their early age. (Matt.19:13-14).
iii. Both should train and discipline them in the way of the Lord. (Prov.22:6).
iv. Both should take the children to church, Sunday School, buy Christian literature for them, allow them to participate at the family altar.
v. Teach the children to be law abiding and respect the government. (Deut.32:46).
vi. Gentle with the children by not provoking them to wrath. (Eph.6:4).
vii. Pray for their children and bless them at all times. (Ps.128:3).
SUMMARY: Parents should take care of God’s heritage in their care as well as themselves. (Ps.127:3-5).
CONCLUSION: Parents should always remember that they are also children with a loving heavenly Father.
*LESSON THIRTY SIX (36)*
*TOPIC: BRIDGING MARITAL GAPS*
*BIBLE PASSAGE: 1 Corinthians 7:1-40*
MEMORY VERSE: “Neither give place to the devil” Ephesians 4:27.
INTRODUCTION: God is the author of marriage (Gen.2:24) He designed it to bring glory to His name and also for man to enjoy. However many marriages today are not conforming to the will of God. Rather than bringing pleasure, many marriages are full of pains and tales of woes because of human choices made contrary to biblical blue prints. In this lesson we shall unravel some of the gaps prevalent in some marriages leading to unfaithfulness among couples.
LESSON OUTLINES:
1. FORMS OF MARITAL GAPS
2. SOME PRACTICAL WAYS TO BRIDGING THE GAPS
LESSON OUTLINE 1: FORMS OF MARITAL GAPS
i. Teacher should ask students to mention those factors which could bring gap between husband and wife.
ii. Teacher should explain the points in Outline 1 as stated below:
a. Locational gaps: Long periods of absence, whether travelling for work or serving in the military, greatly reduces the opportunities for couples to properly bond. Examples are the Portiphars (Gen.39:5-7) and the Uriahs (2Sam.11). Long-distance marriage is not ideal.
b. Emotional Gaps: The feeling of insecurity and loneliness, whether emotional, physical or sexual, can create a gap between couples. The search for excitement to escape boredom and experiment with new things like adopting new hobbies or hanging out with new friends can affect the relationship between spouses.
c. Poor Boundaries: Poor personal boundaries, or the limits we place on other people as to what we find or unacceptable, can also result in marital gap.
d. Revenge: the desire to pay back the wrong doing of a partner in the ‘same coin’ can result in marital gap.
e. Sexual Gaps: Many partners in marital relationship are not enjoying sex or getting satisfaction sexually. They are only enduring and coping because their spouses are not sensitive to their sexual needs. Be it husband or wife, having an uninteresting sex life could put your relationship at risk of infidelity.
f. Financial Gaps: When the financial orientation of the couple differs and both parties fail to reach a compromise as to how money should be managed, there is bound to be conflict which may negatively affect the union.
g. Physical/Physiological Gaps: There are also situations where a couple do not pay attention to each other or do not like to go out together or have a passionate relationship, eventually, one or both of them look outside their relationship for someone whom they want to be with. (Mal.2:14-16).
h. Communication Gaps: communication is one of the most fundamental components of a successful relationship. If you cannot talk to your Spouse and listen to what he or she has to say, you will have a hard time making it through the difficult hurdles in your marriage. Not being able to share secrets, stories and feelings with their spouses can lead some people to open up to others emotionally.
i. Excessive use of the internet and social media: Connecting with other people and talking or chatting with them for hours at length at home, work or even in some public spaces at the expense of your spouse can extend the gap in your relationship.
CLASS ACTIVITY 1: Can you say marital gaps is increasing or decreasing in our societies?
LESSON OUTLINE 2. SOME PRACTICAL WAYS TO BRIDGING THE GAPS
i. Teacher should allow/encourage students who had experienced marital gaps before to share their experiences on how they were able to bridge the gap. They could also narrate their bitter plight during those periods.
ii. Teacher should explain the points as stated in Lesson Outline 2 below:
a. Avoid living separately in the name of job offer or searching for ‘greener pasture’.
b. Understand your spouse’s love language i.e. ask and do things that make them want to be with you the more e.g. holding of hands.
c. Go out together on dates; visit other families, friends and colleagues together.
d. Commend the good things your spouse does.
e. Condemn what is bad in love (not the person but the act) and apologize correctly. Give no room to the devil. (Eph. 4:27).
f. Handle matters discreetly and immediately.
g. Celebrate each other, exchange gifts regularly and create a conducive atmosphere for God’s presence in your homes. (Ps.133:1).
CLASS ACTIVITY 2:What role does communication gap play in marital gap?
SUMMARY: Avoid marital gaps
CONCLUSION: Marriages succeed on intentional effort and purposeful choices made by the partners to make it heaven on earth.
*LESSON THIRTY SEVEN (37)*
*TOPIC: CONFLICT MANAGEMENT IN THE FAMILY*
*BIBLE PASSAGE: Genesis 13:7-9*
MEMORY VERSE: “Recompense to no man evil for evil. Provide things honest in the sight of all men.” Romans 12:17.
INTRODUCTION: A family is defined as a group of people related by blood, marriage, adoption or custom. Generally, conflict can be defined as strong disagreement between persons or groups that often results in heated arguments. Conflict management is the practice of being able to identify and handle conflicts sensibly, fairly and efficiently. Conflict is inevitable. No relationship is perfect or conflict free, but conflict when managed biblically can serve as a catalyst for change and opportunity for a good family growth.
LESSON OUTLINES:
1. CONFLICT IN THE FAMILY AND ITS CAUSES
2. BIBLICAL WAYS OF MANAGING CONFLICT WITHIN THE FAMILY
LESSON OUTLINE 1.CONFLICT IN THE FAMILY AND ITS CAUSES
i. Teacher should allow the students to mention those things which cause conflicts in the family (either in their family or other people’s family).
ii. Teacher should explain the points stated below as major causes of conflict in the family:
a. Misunderstanding among members of immediate or extended family.
b. Contradictory interest among family members. (Amos 3:3).
c. Incompatibility
d. Unresolved disagreement. (Eph. 4:26-27).
e. Lack of trust. (Prov.31:11).
f. Forgiveness. (2 Cor.2:10-11).
g. Communication gap. (Heb. 13:16).
h. Unfaithfulness. (Gen.39:7-12).
i. Financial challenges. (1 Tim.6:8-10)
j. Lack of genuine love. (Col.3:19; 1 Pet. 1:22).
CLASS ACTIVITY 1: Class should spend a few time to pray for peace in the family?
LESSON OUTLINE 2. BIBLICAL WAYS OF MANAGING CONFLICT WITHIN THE FAMILY
i. Teacher should request students to mention ways through which families solve their conflicts.
ii. Teacher should explain points stated below to students:
a. Examine yourselves. (Ps.26:2; 2Cor.13:5).
b. Love God and put Him at the centre of your family. (Deut.6:4-5).
c. Forgive one another. (Lk.17:3; Eph.4:26).
d. Communicate effectively and resolve all conflicts as fast as possible. (Rom.12:17-18).
e. Maintain openness and sincerity with one another. (Gen.2:25).
f. Live a life of humility. (Prov.29:23; Jer.13:18).
g. Love one another. (1Pet.1:22).
h. Revenge not yourself for wrongs done against you. (Rom.12:19).
i. Commit your ways to the Lord. (Ps.37:5).
j. Take every matter to God in prayers. (James 5:16).
CLASS ACTIVITY 2: Class should pray that the causes of conflict would be completely destroyed in Jesus name.
SUMMARY: Members of every family should give peace chance.
CONCLUSION: According to the word of God, all old conflicts must be resolved while there should not be occasion for a new one for God to accept our worship. (Matt. 5:23-25).
LESSON THIRTY EIGHT (38)
TOPIC: KING SOLOMON
BIBLE PASSAGE: 2 Chronicles 9:22-28
MEMORY VERSE: “And God gave Solomon wisdom and understanding exceeding much, and largeness of heart, even as the sand that is on the sea shore.” 1 Kings 4:29.
INTRODUCTION: Solomon was born in Jerusalem 1000 BC to King David and Bathsheba. He was David sixteenth son. Solomon was a fabulously wealthy and wise king of a united kingdom of Israel who succeeded his father king David. He was one of the most powerful kings of the eastern lands. He is the author of 3000 proverbs and he composed 1005 songs (1 Kings 4:32).
LESSON OUTLINES:
1. CHARACTER AND HIS ACHIEVEMENTS
2. LESSONS FROM HIS LIFE
LESSON OUTLINE 1. CHARACTER AND HIS ACHIEVEMENTS
Question 1: What are those things which characterized the reign of King Solomon between 970BC to 930BC?
Answers: i. There was peace (No war). (1Kgs.4:24).
i. There were riches and honour in his kingdom. (1Kgs. 3:13).
ii. His administration was guided with divine wisdom. (2Chron. 9:22).
iii. There was justice. (1Kgs.3:16-28).
iv. Sacrifices were offered to God abundantly. (1Kgs.3:4).
Question 2: What were the achievements of King Solomon?
Answers: i. He built the house of the Lord, the temple of the Lord on mount Moriah. (2Chron.3:1).
ii. He married 700 wives and 300 concubines. (1Kgs.11:3) (which later became a big problem to him).
iii. He had exceeding understanding and wisdom above any other persons. (1Kgs.3:12).
iv. He had riches and honour beyond any king in his days. (1Kgs.3:13).
v. He sacrificed one thousand burnt offerings to the Lord at one time in Gibeon. (1Kgs.3:4).
vi. He asked for a wise and understanding heart, where as other king in his position might have asked for riches and the lives of his enemies. (1Kgs.3:11-12).
CLASS ACTIVITY 1: Compare and contrast the societies in the days of Solomon and in our days.
LESSON OUTLINE 2. LESSONS FROM HIS LIFE
Teacher should allow each student to mention:
A. Lesson(s) they learn from the person and reign of King Solomon
B. Teacher should explain the four lessons listed below to the students.
i. If you need wisdom, ask God for it and He will give it to you. If you believe and do not waver. (James 1:5-8).
ii. Do not take things of the world unto yourself, or they may become a snare to you. Keep yourself separate from them. (1Jn.2:15-17).
iii. Riches and wisdom will not keep you spiritually safe if you insist on disobeying God. (Col. 3:5-6).
iv. We should not just know what is right, but do what is right. (James 4:17).
CLASS ACTIVITY 2: Discuss the challenges of King Solomon according in the light of achievement, character and lesson from his life.
SUMMARY: Divine wisdom and fear of God are important keys to prosperity. (Eccl. 12:13).
CONCLUSION: Solomon was human just like all of us and everyone makes mistakes. Thankfully, if we genuinely repent, we serve a redeeming God whose grace and love are unmatched.
*SUNDAY SCHOOL HYMN*
1. O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
O how I love Thee well,
I am happy, it makes me glad
To rejoice at Thy birth.
2. O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
Thy friend friendship suits me well,
Both young and old will sing Thy song,
We long for Sunday School.
3. O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
Christ was Thy first teacher,
The Holy Spirit, great teacher,l
Does manifest in thee.
4. O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
This testimony is sure,
That God, the Father Almighty,
Poured His blessing on Thee
5. O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day,
Though the sun be so bright,
Or if the clouds be black with rain,
I’ll be in Sunday School.
6. O Sunday School, on the Lord’s day
I rejoice to see Thee,
Will thou pass over me today?
Without my being blest?
